Our emotions.ĭesigned as a gift from God there are times, places, and circumstances that bring out emotions that destroy. What has that kind of power to turn normal human beings who, on most days, are good people to be around, into people that shut down? Into people that leak anger? Into people that explode it? And I would suggest that the first word you want to write down in your notes, the answer is: our emotions. What has the power to turn a festive holiday family gathering into a gut twisting, name calling, take sides, no-holds-barred family feud that never gets resolved? And finally, what has the power to take a cool, calm, collected, long-time conscientious worker into a gun carrying, floor-by-floor-by-floor bullet spraying murderer that no one ever dreamed was even upset, as he expressed the bottled up anger of losing his job? Wherever it surfaces, another emotion already existed.What has the power to transform the tender heart of a loving mother into a beast of fury as I watched her sling her eighteen-month-old baby into the front of a dryer and slam the little one down in a chair? What has the power to turn loving parents into neck bulging, vein popping, screaming adults who say the same thing over and over into the blank stares of their elementary and teenage kids? What has the power to turn good friends and passionate lovers into cold, calculated, critical marriage co-existers who only do what’s absolutely necessary to live under the same roof? When we feel angry, we need to ask ourselves, ‘ Why am I feeling this way?’ Anger isn’t the first feeling to come, though it’s generally the first one to show outwardly. If we grasp this point, we’ll be well on our way to dealing with anger in constructive ways.
It’s a secondary response that hides a deeper or more sensitive issue. “It’s vitally important to understand anger is the outside emotion sent to protect the inner, more sensitive aspects of our hearts. “Unmet expectations are the second area in which anger manifests itself and leads to feelings of frustration” ( source) “First, anger may indicate that we have unmet needs and are feeling hurt” ( source)
When this happens, our anger becomes self-centered and self-righteous.” ( source) Our energy becomes focused on persevering and protecting our pride and our interests. Anger that is not bridled nor righteously motivated can become a dangerous force. “When you and I are angry, we tend to sin a lot. “If you let anger get the best of you, it will reveal the worst of you.” ( source)
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